Have any of you ever seen how protective I can be of Jeff? Yeah, it's a bit of an issue I have. And it's not so much a "don't mess with my man" thing as, "Don't hurt my partner!" I love that guy more that I thought it was possible for people to love their husbands and I only want good things for him and I have a hard time with situations and people that I think might be hurtful and painful for him...even though he is a grown man and knows his own limits and doesn't do anything he can't handle. I still have a strong need to stand and protect.
Guys, it's going to get worse! If you think I'm a little over the top about Jeff then just wait for this nugget to arrive and see if I don't get arrested. It's going to be VERY hard for me to just let things happen and not try to control situations and people. I am going to need EVERY ONE'S help. Seriously, I need your prayers, support and understanding. I want this kid to grow up in a loving, happy and supportive environment...and a lot of that is on ME! I need to let this kid experience the love, support and affection (or lack thereof) from the world as it comes. I need to raise a happy, healthy child that is balanced and well adjusted enough to take the lumps that comes his/her way, as well as all the great things. I will need every one's help with this truly!
I am super sensitive to...everything right now. Smells, food, people, music, commercials, EVERYTHING! You name it and I will treat it like the spectators of the Gladiators all those years ago. Thumbs up or thumps down...I don't seem to be capable of easy middle ground. I either love stuff or I want to make it stop!
Smells: I have never been super sensitive to smells. Jeff is the person in the house with the "dog nose". But now I smell everything and it is ROUGH! There is an air freshener at work that I seriously contemplated asking our office manager to remove from the building because I swear it gives me a headache! One morning we met Jeff's family for breakfast at IHOP and I had to leave the table because the guy seated behind me smelled like smoke, wood smoke and cigarette smoke. I had to move away from someone at a dinner one night because her perfume was too strong for me. I hate going into certain shops because of all the smells, candles, air freshners, etc.! And there are some people that smell SO good! Someone at work has the best smelling perfume! I haven't figured out who yet but she smells great! Oh, and cookies! I love the smell of cookies....or bakeries. I swear I'd bake cookies every night just to make the house smell like fresh baked cookies! Once I tried to clean out the fridge and while nothing smelled offensive to me the thought of something smelling offensive sent me running to the bedroom and I was yelling at Jeff to clean out the fridge!
So, FYI friends and family! If I find your smells, your house, your perfume, your pheremons offensive I will move away...and I hear you can't bathe newborns every day so DO NOT come to the hospital or my house reeking of something offensive. And if your perfume makes the list...tough noogies. You have two choices; don't wear the offensive smelling agent or don't come over. If I can't wash the kid's clothes and body every day I won't smell that nastiness every day either! You are forewarned!
Noises: noises have always bothered me and the way certain people (myself included) have baby-talked and treated babies like dogs. I have never worn dangly, jangly bracelets and necklaces and I really don't like them on other people...I don't want to "hear" you when I can't see you. And when you are expressive and talk with your hands (like I do) it bothers me even more! There are so many times lately (since our nephew and all our friends have been having kids) that I have noticed people talking to babies like they are dogs, snapping and clicking, clucking and being SO loud and annoying with them...If you treat my kid like a dog I will tell you that it is a human not a canine and tell (NOT ASK) you to stop. And if you baby talk my kid in that super annoying way (wish I could explain that better) I will tell you that we have a mini-human, not a clown and there is no need to treat my small, short, tiny human in such a way. Yeah, words are totally fine with us...stick with them.
AND multiple noises! I can't take multiple things going at the same time. If we (a group of people) are talking I can't take someone turning up the TV. If we're watching TV I can't handle the radio going. If we're listening to music I can't handle having the TV, unless it's on mute and there is a game on. I need one activity, one noise maker, one thing at a time. It's like brain-overload if there are multiple things happening at once...like people talking, TV going and someone singing. Nope, can't handle it. So, FYI, if you're at our house there will be only one thing going at a time and if this is after the kid has arrived it will probably be music, no TV.
There are going to be SO many things that bother me. And some of it is because I'm going to be the inexperienced mother trying to find the work, home, family, life balance. Some of it will be things that annoyed me before either still annoy me...or are amplified now that I'm pregnant...and soon to be a mother. I am not kidding and I am not being silly and I am not over-exaggerating when I say I need your love, support, understanding and prayers as I try to tackle this new adventure. I will need my family and friends to tell me that I am overracting and to snap out of it (think of Cher in Moonstruck!) and sometimes I'm going to need a hug and a "Tori, you're being a little riducluous" and sometimes I'm going to need you folks to say, "How can I help?"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0x-fkSYDtUY
You know the old saying, "It takes a village to raise a child?" I will need my village! We will need all of you to help us become the parents we want to be and we will need all of you to help, love and support this kid. Together we can make it through and have a happy, healthy, balanced, loving child that grows into a happy, healthy, balanced loving adult. It will take a village and we are blessed to have such a strong and special village!
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