So, I've had MANY, many friends ask me to blog about my pregnancy. I will do my best but considering that I'm almost at the end of 3rd month you can see I'm really on top of things. I do want to blog for two reasons, to make my friends laugh with stories of my experiences and so I can go back and read about what was going on with me and us one day. So, I'll start from WAY back. I will try my best to use general terms and go to give too much information with all this stuff...but be forewarned. I may have to embarrass myself, Jeff, a friend or family member by what I write...with no intention of doing so! I will try my best to not make this awkward and to make it fun and funny.
So, last year in July (2012) I was on antibiotics to try to get rid of something, probably a sinus infection or some such infirmity. While I was on these antibiotics...I was nice and I was "excited" and Jeff and I REALLY enjoyed this week off from birth control. And I kind of felt like I wasn't feeling the best while taking the BC so we decided to try other methods instead of me taking a pill. I waited until the end of August/beginning of September to quit and met with my GYN before taking the plunge into a non-BC world. She was ecstatic! She'd been wanting me to get off BC for years and I was finally making her dream come true. Well, Jeff and I still didn't feel the need to venture into the possibility of parenthood so we tried different things for a while but then as the year went on we were kind of thinking, "Well, let's see what happens. We're not getting any younger." And every month I received a monthly visitor so I was beginning to think we couldn't or wouldn't without medical help. Some months I was very UNHAPPY for that monthly reminder that I'm an adult female...and other months I would think "Oh! Thank goodness! I'm not ready for a kid yet!"
And then August 2013 rolled around...First of all I had agreed to co-chair a big event at church and the event date was August 24 so I was neck deep in planning for that. Work was the BUSIEST month I'd ever had at the law firm! We had commercial closings that were big complicated deals happening every other day it felt like and to top off the roller coaster of fun my grandmother found out she needed to have open heart surgery for 3 bypasses and a valve replacement. My head was spinning to say the least! And enter the first possible idea of an alien form in my body.
One weekend we went to Murfreesboro to hang out with family and meet my cousin Trevor's baby. Saturday morning all the guys got up and went golfing and all the girls stayed at the house. I got up relatively early. I took my shower, got ready (full hair and makeup) and got dressed and was so bone tired that I got back in bed! I didn't tell my aunt or cousin-in-law! I just disappeared and got back in bed and fell right back to sleep. The guys got back from golfing and Jeff came in to wake me up. We both figured that I was just tired from work. That Friday I was supposed to leave work at noon for us to get to Murfreesboro at a decent hour...I didn't leave work until 4:00! I was worn out after a MAJOR commercial closing! So, I got up and asked Jeff if he brought me a Sprite and my cousin-in-law looked at me funny and asked, "Are you pregnant?" I surly didn't think so and told her no as emphatically as possible, especially since my parents were playing with her new baby and sitting right next to me!
So, fast forward a few weeks and my grandmother is home and healing and work felt like it was starting to mellow out and it was the day of my event at church. I could finally see the light at the end of this crazy tunnel and felt like I'd be able to rest and relax soon! As I was driving to church that morning of the 24th I remember thinking to myself, "shouldn't I have started by now?" Then I waved the thought away and figured that all the stress and as busy as I was that my system was off and I was just out of wack. So, I get to church and start trying to put the final touches on things, make sure everything is in order and trying to help the vendors set up their wares to sell. One vendor was a girl that went to high school with Jeff and his husband is big buddies with Jeff so I was looking at her items and a church member was asking her about her pregnancy and if she wanted to find out what she was having. It was my light bulb moment! As soon as I heard them talking I know I got wired and hyper and that event could NOT end fast enough! To quote the old lady from Happy Gilmore, "Get me outta here!" I knew right then that I was going to making a stop at CVS before I went home! The event went great. I was able to listen and enjoy the speaker and do a little shopping and eat the fabulous lunch before I hit the door running!
I went to CVS to buy a pregnancy test. The second test I've ever bought but the first that was ever for me! I stood there for a good few minutes thinking, "Which one do I buy?" I finally bought a digital one that had two tests in it...got to make sure, right!? I didn't say a word to Jeff about this! I thought for sure I was just getting over-excited and that really it was all the stress and anxiety of work, family and church that was getting to me. So, I took the first test and took a nap. I didn't check it and I didn't say anything to Jeff! He woke me up to get ready for the Starlight Symphony. I checked the test and lo and behold that little screen said, 'Pregnant'! So, I took the second test and put it in the cabinet (still not telling Jeff) and we went to Starlight Symphony and enjoyed a night with our friends. When we got home I checked the second test and don't you know that one said 'Pregnant', too! So, being the romantic souls that we are, as we were in the closet putting on our pajamas we bumped into each other and Jeff said, "Move fatass." I laughed and said, "Not yet, but I'll get there." He gave me a funny look and I showed him the tests. He just said, "hmm, I figured." WHAT?!?! He figured? I didn't have a clue! Help a sister out, would you?!
So, I waited a few weeks and finally decided to call and make a doctor's appointment. It wasn't until September 25...a whole month between taking the test and seeing a doctor...torture, or at least it felt like it! Jeff refused to talk about it. I understand. He didn't want to jinx us and get too excited and I honestly didn't either. As the month went on I slowly started getting symptoms. I was tired. I had the hardest time waking up in the mornings! I was so slow in the mornings. There were MANY mornings that I went to work with wet hair, didn't wash my hair or looking and feeling ROUGH. I never got sick and I never felt nauseous but I sure didn't feel good! I just wanted to stay in the bed. The weekends were much easier. I don't know if it was because I was able to sleep more or if it was because I didn't feel rushed to get to work or what but I cherished my weekends during those first few weeks!
Finally September 25 rolled around and we went to our first appointment. The first stop of the visit was the ultrasound, and what a wonder visit. We got to hear the heartbeat for the first time. It was a very fast 187! I think even though neither of us had talked about the baby or the pregnancy we were both so happy and so relieved to hear that little heartbeat! And it wasn't NEARLY as bad as I expected. I hate to say this but everyone knows what a pop culture, TV/movie junkie I am and while my friends and some family members had told me PLENTY about "birthin babies" I still didn't know what to expect and the movie "The Back-Up Plan" was in my head and I just knew it would be like that. So, after we left the ultrasound (with the proof of pictures that I was "with child") we met with the OB nurse. She went over too much information in my opinion. And she also made me do that glucose test! I wasn't expecting that at my first appointment and it made me nervous because I'd heard so many horror stories about people getting sick or almost sick and how they hated it, etc. She gave me lemon/lime flavor and it didn't taste bad at all! My problem was having to chug it in such a short time frame. And the nurse kept looking over at me and asking me, "Are you okay?" which made me feel like I shouldn't be...but I was fine!
After the OB nurse we finally met with the doctor. The doctor is a friend! So, it was good and awkward all at the same time! While he performed his exam Jeff played on his phone and I had my hands over my eyes. He was VERY professional and in "doctor mode" and didn't cut up with Jeff until it was all over and we were ready to leave. So, he was asking me if I had a feeling about what gender the baby was. I didn't. We talked about some of the old wives tales. The baby's heartbeat was 187 which the OWT says girl. I crave sweet things to eat and drink and the OWT says girl. Then the doc asked if we'd checked a Chinese gender calender. He said he and his wife and checked it for both their kids and it was right both times...so we checked three different sites and all three said boy...so, who will be right? Chinese gender calendars or OWTs? We get to find out in December!
And let's not lie...whenever anyone asks Jeff what we want he automatically gives the generic appropriate response, "A happy, healthy baby." But again, let's not lie. Jeff Lester wants a boy so bad he could spit! So, I kind of feel the need to cheer for the pink team to make it even...but I promise I don't have any feelings and I don't really care. I watch Jeff play with our nephew and some friends kids that are boys and I think, "Oh, he'll be so good with a little guy!" then he'll be so sweet and fun with a little girl and I think, "Yeah, he'd be a good dad for a little girl." So, I guess the good news is that I don't care and he'll do well with either even if he seems to want a boy something fierce! And, I told a friend recently that Jeff was SO close with his dad and if this is a boy it will be the Jeff and Junior show that I'm still going to need a dog to keep me company as those two ride off in the sunset together. Not really...but I am still using any excuse to get a dog in this house! I've even said to him, "Are you really going to deny your child the love of a pet?" I'll turn that screw any way I can!
So, a horrible and funny "pregnancy brain" story...the first of many! And please remember this is BEFORE I knew! My Aunt Pat was planning to set up a booth of her pottery art at our church event in August. My Aunt Peggy sent my mom and I a text message that said, "Pat's kiln failed. We can't come this weekend." When I first read that message I did NOT comprehend Peggy's message and I called my mom to ask her if she'd gotten Peggy's message. She said no. I said, "Pat's KIDNEY has failed. They aren't coming this weekend." My mom got eerily silent, and understandably so! Finally she said she'd call Peggy and find out what was going on. I sat in our den and then my brain actually kicked in! I re-read the message and it finally clicked, her KILN! How I got kidney from kiln I don't know. Why I thought Peggy would text us about Pat's kidney and not call, I don't know! Seriously! So, I called my mom and was super embarrassed to say, "it's her pottery kiln...not her kidney." Seriously, Tori!? Seriously! Yeah, I did that. *insert head shake*
Oh, and the end of August and pretty much the whole month of September I never craved anything certain food in particular...just food that I didn't buy at Kroger and food that we didn't prepare at our house! We ate out just about every day and night that first month! Yeah, when I looked at our budget and bank statement in September.. WHOA NELLY! I busted that food budget wide open! Thank goodness that has gone away! I finally feel like food being cooked at our house is acceptable to eat and I would actually prefer a home cooked meal instead of eating out! Geez, this is a roller coaster!
My favorite quote from a friend so far is, "Motherhood is the best worst job in the world."
And I am SO happy that we're the last of our friends and family to be having a baby instead of the first! There are so many people we can talk to and ask for advice and help...and great cousins and friends for this joker to play with!
And so it begins...
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